The Struggle is REAL…and THAT’S OK!
“The Struggle is REAL…and THAT’S OK!” is my latest mantra…it’s more than a mantra…it’s a new lifestyle of self compassion and acceptance recognizing that we all struggle and we all just want to be happy…and we can feel comfort in all of the human emotions that come along with these struggles on the path to happiness because everyone feels them…the priest to the prisoner…monk to the manic…bum to the billionaire…this is living, this is being human, this is the most natural thing in life…and how could that not be OK!?!?!
- Suffering is a part of existence = “The Struggle is REAL”
- The origin of suffering is craving = “We all just want to be happy”
- That suffering can be ended = “…and that’s OK”
- Following the 8 Fold Path is the means to end the suffering = ***This was Buddha’s way to be OK with the struggle…find your own path or follow someone else’s…it’s all OK!!!
HERE ARE MY TOP 5 BIGGEST STRUGGLES…and how I am learning to be OK with them:
- Vulnerability…recognize the feeling…lean in to the feeling…accept myself…it’s ok…and liberating
- Failure…recognize the feeling…is this my ego telling me how I “should” feel…accept myself…it’s ok
- Worthiness…recognize the feeling of “not enough”…not being enough or doing enough…know that just being born makes me worthy of life…be grateful for that…and that’s ok
- Judgement…recognize when I feel judged or am judging others…ask why?…accept myself and others…everyone struggles…everything is ok
- Perfection…recognize the need to be perfect…recognize the vulnerability, failure, worthiness, judgement and struggle it brings…and that’s ok
- Brene Brown – initially famous for her TED Talk on Shame, hours of research later she has a library of books on shame, vulnerability, worthiness, and belonging.
- Pema Chodron – American Tibetan Buddhist, countless seminars and stories about integrating buddhist practices in to american society and struggles.
- The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World – a book that chronicles a 2015 meeting between South African Archbishop Desmond Tutu and His Holiness the Dalai Lama in a series of moderated interviews about how to find joy in the face of life’s inevitable suffering.